Showing posts with label Feelings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Feelings. Show all posts

Sunday, December 5, 2021

Sometimes It is Good to Revisit Our Past to have Reality Checks…!!

Life, History, and Reality

I am supposed to be an optimistic person with a motivation to lead my life, and a vision to stay in the present moment as it is the only time we have. But, it is not always the case as visiting our past and revisiting history for the sake of learning and finding how man builds and destroys his individual or collective life. My visit to the past was somehow unplanned, and it started with a movie that I had watched around twenty years back. There was a favorite actor of mine in it, and he was one of the most dashing, smart, and stylish actors of that time. I wonder if his looks and style are still up to the present time fashion. 

That’s how some people stay ahead of time and can display something that is called the evergreen sort of thing. I had a flash of memories associated not with that film but with the period, and the age when I first watched it. The depressive issues, problems, and the vigor to conquer the world in those youthful times were visualized again. Then I kept on comparing my present time lifestyle, the issues, my mindset, and how I have transformed. 

In many cases, I am much more strong, self-awareness and wisdom might be more. But the vigor, enthusiasm, and charm, and attraction towards life are quite lessened. I was trying to find out the real meaning of life right now. Why and how people are so much indulged in running behind the material world, false emotions, fallacies, and fall from grace for the sake of other mortal humans. Who left us long ago without giving a second thought and value to our love, feelings, and emotions? What was the use of trying to be in the hearts and minds of others when in the end others use us for their pastimes, and for having a listener and compassionate person in their tough times?

That’s how life is as an old film watched again gave me food for thought and a whole track to rethink how and why we have wasted so much time is useless things. At the current time, we are closer to our deaths as the end seems to give me another direction, to work for a collection of stuff that will be the real asset in the afterlife, not the one for the purposeless investment into this mortal world. But, we have to pass the remaining time in this world, as we have to learn, provide a better life for people who are dependent on us, and to strive for a better lifestyle as I am not twenty years younger as like the time of the movie that I watched. 

It is a bit of a sad but interesting thing to see that a young and handsome man as a hero in the film is also old, with obesity and age has taken away his glory youthful charm. That’s how I resemble the blooming flower and then it’s fading and falling away, petal by petal and as a pale worn-out unwanted object. Ahhh! The strange facts of life are not going to change for anyone

Here, I would like to quote one of the most beautiful novels that came in the last two decades. Arundhati Roy in her novel “God of Small Things”. When she talked about the character Ammu, who was 31 years old, and she used the phrase “a dieable viable age”. This sentence still haunts me with being closer to all viable to die at any moment. SO, it’s time to prepare for the final destination, and to look and pray for the best things that are promised by God Almighty in Paradise, and to work on it instead of keeping grudges, hatred, jealousy, revenge, pessimism, and other useless emotions in our hearts, minds, and souls anymore.

Sunday, November 28, 2021

How Sanity Works for Different People Who Care about Self-Esteem as Well

Sanity and Self-Esteem


Life is unpredictable and so are human beings, with a variant psyche it is the most difficult thing to predict anything about this race. The conflicting situations among the human conscious mind, subconscious and unconscious desires, and instincts vary so much that it is really hard to imagine how people will react in different situations. For people like me, self-esteem and keeping our sanctity are always very important. But I ask myself a question as if I maintain my respect within or outside society to the level that I always craved for…!!

I am not asking for the glitz, gloss, and glamorous life of a celebrity but a simple and normal recognition that anyone can look up for having in his or her circle of relations and social relations. The most important thing is our very own sanctity that we need to never compromise on it. But we do it in the name of life, friendships, not to spoil a social relationship, to secure our jobs, and for a lot of other things. It is not the case with me as I am in a dilemma of being nice to everyone, and then trying to snap at people who have crossed their limits and have intruded into my circle of self-respect. 


What a strange psyche we carry with a desire to be loved and respected by others, How different people play with our emotions depending upon how weak we are concerning a desire to find someone who cares for us without anything in return. How we lost our trust and our very own sanctity in trying to reach the unreachable, and it is not subject to that we desire for the stars. They are as ordinary as us but those people come and then stay in our lives for the sake of the fulfillment of their problems, loneliness, the desire of being social, lust, material desires, and lots more. When they find their needs fulfilled out in some other and better way then they don’t care a second to kick us out of their lives. 


Why do people try to fool us and play with our true feeling and emotions as they know that we are really keeping them very special in our hearts, minds, and souls? This question is not solved by me to date except a notion that expectations need to be kept in control, and then don’t let others be your masters of emotions. As they might leave at any instance, and they will use you for their very own instinctive desires that also include the carnal or bodily lust. Then they can easily find an excuse to leave, and many people these days don’t even bother to create an excuse. They are experts in using our weak points in emotions then silently blocking and walking away, and they damn care as if we are in pain. We want them to reconnect or at least respond to our pure and sweet gestures with a token of friendship, and an assurance that they are busy but have us in their lives and hearts. 


Does it cost anything to let people feel easy, relaxed, comfortable, and to give them a status of being connected? Why if someone is emotionally imbalanced and a person who cannot get out of any good or bad experience so easily tries hard to reconnect, and then bashed to the core with losing all dignity and disrespected for what. Forgiving another person respect that he never deserved or for being a fool enough to form expectations from that person who held and controlled us for his or her temporary cravings. Al least we can have a catharsis that we were used to serving someone in his or her difficult times, and does it matters?


The self-respect is so much compromised by us actually that we expect that their words and actions had some base and that they were actually behind their temporary desires and they don’t find a reason or grace enough to say goodbye respectfully. They cannot even excuse us for using our time, feelings, emotions in every way and now they don’t need us anymore. At least, it will suggest to us that we were badly used, and then we have to recover our nerves for the greater good of our own lives, values, and for people who matter in our lives. Then we may learn what are our success goals, and as we cannot be that cheap and selfish, which is a really good human trait. Then we have a way to move forward and work for our very own success and soul satisfaction to be or right path. It is important for our worldly life and hereafter for sure…!!


Wednesday, November 24, 2021

Self Awareness is a Gift that Few People Cherish but Many Can Learn…!!

Optimism and Motivation for Self Awareness

Life is a continuous struggle that we as humans try to live for our best. We try hard to find the real meaning of life and why our existence is so important for the universe. But, unfortunately very few lead to worthwhile conclusions, and even helpful to sustain and to strive for our very own attainment of heights of glory, peace of soul, and above all to be a part of a better human race. Yes, we must try hard to look to find our real being, and self-awareness is bliss in a way. When people get aware of how their hearts and mind coordinate, and how to give guidance to one’s subconscious and unconscious mind in the right way then things are all going to be very well for us, and humanity in general. 

Deciding to live in peace with what we are gifted by the Divine Rulings, and what is the limitation to our actions, and how to control the wild side that usually exists in every ordinary human being. I am not talking about the superhumans, who have great self-control or are gifted to look beyond their worldly desires, and materialistic approaches towards life and towards other beings. The craving to find relaxed life, true love, and to find success in everything we do is a wish that no sane person can deny for…!!


Each individual has a soul and a desire to live in the best of conditions, and that does not mean to bully, to crush others in the game of success, or to reach the top of a hill, by moving and shaking the inside out of others. If there is a self-awareness of our capabilities, the blessings that we already carry, and our aptitude that must be directed towards something that we highly crave. Then our unconscious mind will take us towards that path with the right decisions and actions at the right time. The wishes must be realistic and there must be an overall positivity in everything we desire for. Some people like to keep the pessimistic approach towards life and other people. 


They want to harm others with their words, actions, and an inside craving to see others suffer. It might be due to their experiences, and the hard and harsh things that others have done to them. But the important thing is to always try to stay away from the emotion of revenge. I don’t ask you to present another cheek if someone slaps you at once. Self-respect is such a precious part of self-awareness that one must never compromise on it. But to keep our nerves in control, and to refrain from damaging another person with our words, actions and attitude are not recommended. Either we must be able to say the truth in front of the one who is hurting our true emotions and giving a jerk to the soul. In another case, forgive or forget is the best option…!!


The concept of forgiveness and forgetting carries a pearl of inherited wisdom, as we let our mind and soul not be able to suffer from the things that don’t matter in our path and struggle to live a better life. Then the second-best thing happens that we don’t want our emotions and energy in negative ways, and give ourselves a lesson that other person’s deeds and words do not reflect me. I am going to define myself in the way I see myself, and how I want to grow and groom. Self-nurturing and growth is natural process, and we keep on learning at every age. If we are aware of our own flaws and weaknesses then we are better able to correct and control ourselves for our very own good life and physical, emotional, and mental health, and to have a peaceful soul….!! 



Monday, February 16, 2015

Silence is Waiting to Whisper its Presence!

 Silence is waiting

for me!

To whisper its presence and companionship

I am afraid to lose this Friend!

Who listens to me without Spoken Words?

It never complains or rejects my feelings

It helps me carry on a flow of emotions

I can rest my back with a wall

Close my eyes

and

feel its presence

Telling me stories of Unseen Worlds!

of destinations that I have to travel


To reach my SOUL!

My peace and what I want to be

And what I have become

I am afraid that the outer NOISE

May not take way my true companion

I love to listen to wisdom tales by silence around

To break the silence that stands within!!

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Spiritual Awakening that Comes with the Fear of Trial in Afterlife!


 
Spiritual Awakening and Motivation for Success

I don’t know as if you believe in any religion or you have any concept of Life after Death. But I want to share my inner feelings and thoughts with you. I am Muslim and I have firm belief on Afterlife and the trial for good and anything bad that we have done. If we have broken the rules which ALLAH Almighty has set for us or we have given immense Pain and Sufferings to Mankind, in any form. It will not undergo as part and parcel of this mortal life. 

This thoughts gives me and other Muslims a higher level of e patience than the people who are in continuous state of depression if they are not given justice in this soon to be ended life! I feel everyone who is a believer in “Omnipresent God” with a Will to Punish the wrongdoers, and the rewards for the people who have done something good are much more at ease. For the matter of fact, the issues and difficulties that we face in life are our tests and trials, and we will be rewarded if we show patience. So life on this Planet Earth is not meaningless, and we are not going to the part of nitrogen in this soil after Death.

Our mortal bodies will definitely be buried and part of the soil but our SOULS will depart for Eternity, and for Heaven and Peace. Sometimes, people get a flash of light to open their Inner Eye or in other words there is a Spiritual Awakening that is associated with certain agonies of LIFE. If we believe and pray for well then it will eventually come to us as the darkest hours are just before the light at dawn. So we need to remain all Optimistic and Motivated to fight with negative and evil thoughts within, and to keep complete faith on good times to come!

Now I can say that we Pakistani Citizens are facing that time for TRIAL and we have faced many facets of agony, pain, misery and sufferings. It might be on the name of terrorism, politics, linguistics, sectarianism, and at the continuous danger alarms from an existent enemy like India. But it is our test and trail, and there is no need to be demotivated, pessimistic and fearful as we know ALLAH Almighty is Watching us, and He will reward us with bountiful future only if we stay patient and pray to Him!

Life is all about a catch of an opportunity to be rich and famous, and to be at a highest point of Success. But we will leave everything here and our assets for afterlife would be our deeds. If we prove to be strong in faith, and work with unity then our all enemies will be defeated in their prospect of weakening or splitting the State of PAKISTAN. So it is a hard time but it will pass, and we have even seen worst case scenarios in past, and our faith and optimism has kept us all alive. This is something that has arisen the weirdness in the mind-set of our enemies. 

But in a way I can see that each incident gives us a Soulful Insight to look for our mistakes, and to fight the battle of duality inside our hearts, minds and souls. We have awakened outwardly and spiritually, and it has removed the peace from our all-time enemy’s mind and souls as well! Now it is time to be united and search for the hidden and exposed enemies, and the paid agents inside the society of Pakistan. Let’s do it from this time onwards and Salute to All Martyrs of the Nation and Islam!!

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Barren Mind!

Barrenness of Mind and Hope
You might be amazed at the title of my blog as how a mind can be barren. The barrenness is an attribute related to lands, cultures destinies an so on. But I am telling you right from my heart that my mind is barren. I have lost all thoughts, feelings and emotions to move on for a write up that can motivate others for good in their lives!

My recent illness and some personal crises situations have made me feel quite ruthless and even negative thinker in a true way. I can’t describe anything in a normal and optimistic way. But yes I am trying to recover my consciousness to work for my SELF, and to be strong enough to recollect my own stream of thoughts and ideas that always motivated me to do or write something with a clear message.

Now I am able to relate with people who are in extreme panic situation or face some devastating situations. Now I can imagine the hollowness inside their minds and souls. Yes! We human beings are not automated machines who can turn the moods on with a single statement or like a on off switch. We need a whole plan to be out in a normal situation, and it can only happen when we are able to concentrate.

It is a time when a person must sit alone and spend time with himself or herself, and then visualize everything from scratch. Believe me I did so and I was quite successful. It is due to a old religious and eastern cultural myth that goes on. When you are left with no choices then sit in a dark corner with your back touching a wall. Inhale deeply and get inside Your Own Self. You will be meditating and don’t be fed up with initial dark.

Eventually you will turn out with something very positive and practical that is hidden like a treasure in your soul. You have to find the keys of that wallet and then take the map out. Your plan will become easy when you ask ALLAH Almighty to Help you and to Bless you with a serene and peaceful way out.

I am trying to dig out something from inside and hopefully will be able to write for others and for myself, and all I can suggest you is to do the same and you will never be at a loss. That will be my treasure and my real catharsis, and we all need it as I am not a super human. I guarantee that your inner voyage of self-discovery and finding new ways to fight with external stresses and anxieties will never be failed out!!


Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Acquiring Something YOU long Desired is a Mission Accomplished?

I am just swaying in the ocean of thoughts and feel even strange that is it worth spending hours, days and weeks in planning and then celebrating something that is just so material, and not even ours. We are just doing our efforts to have a New Thing in our life and we have never thought that so many people around the globe are looking towards unseen horizons, to have a meal for a single time.

It makes all my accomplishments and fulfilments to a point zero, and I just ponder on what is being left for me to celebrate a victory that is not going to last even for days. I am not sure if I am able to own that thing which I have been bound to receive legally. But law does not coincide with human fragility, and I heard a man who was so happy on having a great success in his job. But on a thrush of a second moment he was struck by a big bus and he was all dead.

Where his aspirations and accomplishments and nobody are even knows what he was planning to do with that reward what he got. In the model world of fragile thoughts, feelings, emotions and desires how can one be satisfied to have a possession of a New Car or a Home. When you are so uncertain about the very next moment. Life sucks at most of times and it is true. We are born to die and we human beings keep on oppressing others as we will never be a part of dust as our ancestors became.

All name and fame will remain here and we will be in a new time and space mechanism, and judgement of our deeds would be made on what we would leave behind in terms of good deeds, and how much we were able to make a single person smile with something so normal. We are going to see a reality where no one will care of what mansion and luxury car we use to drive.

Then how can we be happy and just so calm at achieving something so worldly and material. But on the other hand we are supposed to live this life to fullest, and to acquire everything with fair means. We are leading to a door of eternal happiness that will come to us but we have to live this life in a fullest way. To do this we have to fight all battles within and outside in the open world. Free ourselves from complexes and duplicities, and then to deal with the world as it demands us to be. So we have to cherish every new acquisition!!

Monday, March 26, 2012

Frozen Feelings


Revitalize Your Feelings and Motivation Level
Have you ever seen Frozen Feelings? If you are wondering over my question then just take a deep breath and look deep inside you. Your soul is always conscious of its phases, and you need to look at the corridors of life that you have passed. You passed with yourself through doors opening to joys, sorrows, grievances, losses, depressions, anger. But there is just one string got attached to the rest of universe and the Ultimate Reality! Have you ever felt an extreme sense of loneliness while you are settling in a crowd? If you have ever touched the soft corners of your heart then there lies a mystery of being all alone in this world full of matter and material thoughts.

All through life, we keep on striving for the best of things that can comfort our bodies and make us feel prosperous in a broader way. The hollowness that haunts you at that very moment is the real desire of your being into existence. We are not here to merely eat, drink and do daily chores of life.

The bigger meaning lies little ahead of us and there is no science in attaining that inner sense of peace. Feel yourself to strive of a bigger motive, bigger results that are far beyond this limited world that you see with only prescribed Five Senses!! Keep on searching and meditating for the Greatest Authority and the Eternal Light that will enslave you with best of best kinds of comforts and peace.

The enforcement of leading your course of life towards real PEACE and Joy is just within you, and you may get on true path by some mentor or teacher or just an awakening of your Soul. The senses beyond touch and sight would lead you at the gates of eternal happiness, and you are only supposed to mend your ways of thinking and feeling all that importance that you carry as an individual, in front of your Only CREATOR!!