Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts

Sunday, November 28, 2021

How Sanity Works for Different People Who Care about Self-Esteem as Well

Sanity and Self-Esteem


Life is unpredictable and so are human beings, with a variant psyche it is the most difficult thing to predict anything about this race. The conflicting situations among the human conscious mind, subconscious and unconscious desires, and instincts vary so much that it is really hard to imagine how people will react in different situations. For people like me, self-esteem and keeping our sanctity are always very important. But I ask myself a question as if I maintain my respect within or outside society to the level that I always craved for…!!

I am not asking for the glitz, gloss, and glamorous life of a celebrity but a simple and normal recognition that anyone can look up for having in his or her circle of relations and social relations. The most important thing is our very own sanctity that we need to never compromise on it. But we do it in the name of life, friendships, not to spoil a social relationship, to secure our jobs, and for a lot of other things. It is not the case with me as I am in a dilemma of being nice to everyone, and then trying to snap at people who have crossed their limits and have intruded into my circle of self-respect. 


What a strange psyche we carry with a desire to be loved and respected by others, How different people play with our emotions depending upon how weak we are concerning a desire to find someone who cares for us without anything in return. How we lost our trust and our very own sanctity in trying to reach the unreachable, and it is not subject to that we desire for the stars. They are as ordinary as us but those people come and then stay in our lives for the sake of the fulfillment of their problems, loneliness, the desire of being social, lust, material desires, and lots more. When they find their needs fulfilled out in some other and better way then they don’t care a second to kick us out of their lives. 


Why do people try to fool us and play with our true feeling and emotions as they know that we are really keeping them very special in our hearts, minds, and souls? This question is not solved by me to date except a notion that expectations need to be kept in control, and then don’t let others be your masters of emotions. As they might leave at any instance, and they will use you for their very own instinctive desires that also include the carnal or bodily lust. Then they can easily find an excuse to leave, and many people these days don’t even bother to create an excuse. They are experts in using our weak points in emotions then silently blocking and walking away, and they damn care as if we are in pain. We want them to reconnect or at least respond to our pure and sweet gestures with a token of friendship, and an assurance that they are busy but have us in their lives and hearts. 


Does it cost anything to let people feel easy, relaxed, comfortable, and to give them a status of being connected? Why if someone is emotionally imbalanced and a person who cannot get out of any good or bad experience so easily tries hard to reconnect, and then bashed to the core with losing all dignity and disrespected for what. Forgiving another person respect that he never deserved or for being a fool enough to form expectations from that person who held and controlled us for his or her temporary cravings. Al least we can have a catharsis that we were used to serving someone in his or her difficult times, and does it matters?


The self-respect is so much compromised by us actually that we expect that their words and actions had some base and that they were actually behind their temporary desires and they don’t find a reason or grace enough to say goodbye respectfully. They cannot even excuse us for using our time, feelings, emotions in every way and now they don’t need us anymore. At least, it will suggest to us that we were badly used, and then we have to recover our nerves for the greater good of our own lives, values, and for people who matter in our lives. Then we may learn what are our success goals, and as we cannot be that cheap and selfish, which is a really good human trait. Then we have a way to move forward and work for our very own success and soul satisfaction to be or right path. It is important for our worldly life and hereafter for sure…!!


Wednesday, November 24, 2021

Self Awareness is a Gift that Few People Cherish but Many Can Learn…!!

Optimism and Motivation for Self Awareness

Life is a continuous struggle that we as humans try to live for our best. We try hard to find the real meaning of life and why our existence is so important for the universe. But, unfortunately very few lead to worthwhile conclusions, and even helpful to sustain and to strive for our very own attainment of heights of glory, peace of soul, and above all to be a part of a better human race. Yes, we must try hard to look to find our real being, and self-awareness is bliss in a way. When people get aware of how their hearts and mind coordinate, and how to give guidance to one’s subconscious and unconscious mind in the right way then things are all going to be very well for us, and humanity in general. 

Deciding to live in peace with what we are gifted by the Divine Rulings, and what is the limitation to our actions, and how to control the wild side that usually exists in every ordinary human being. I am not talking about the superhumans, who have great self-control or are gifted to look beyond their worldly desires, and materialistic approaches towards life and towards other beings. The craving to find relaxed life, true love, and to find success in everything we do is a wish that no sane person can deny for…!!


Each individual has a soul and a desire to live in the best of conditions, and that does not mean to bully, to crush others in the game of success, or to reach the top of a hill, by moving and shaking the inside out of others. If there is a self-awareness of our capabilities, the blessings that we already carry, and our aptitude that must be directed towards something that we highly crave. Then our unconscious mind will take us towards that path with the right decisions and actions at the right time. The wishes must be realistic and there must be an overall positivity in everything we desire for. Some people like to keep the pessimistic approach towards life and other people. 


They want to harm others with their words, actions, and an inside craving to see others suffer. It might be due to their experiences, and the hard and harsh things that others have done to them. But the important thing is to always try to stay away from the emotion of revenge. I don’t ask you to present another cheek if someone slaps you at once. Self-respect is such a precious part of self-awareness that one must never compromise on it. But to keep our nerves in control, and to refrain from damaging another person with our words, actions and attitude are not recommended. Either we must be able to say the truth in front of the one who is hurting our true emotions and giving a jerk to the soul. In another case, forgive or forget is the best option…!!


The concept of forgiveness and forgetting carries a pearl of inherited wisdom, as we let our mind and soul not be able to suffer from the things that don’t matter in our path and struggle to live a better life. Then the second-best thing happens that we don’t want our emotions and energy in negative ways, and give ourselves a lesson that other person’s deeds and words do not reflect me. I am going to define myself in the way I see myself, and how I want to grow and groom. Self-nurturing and growth is natural process, and we keep on learning at every age. If we are aware of our own flaws and weaknesses then we are better able to correct and control ourselves for our very own good life and physical, emotional, and mental health, and to have a peaceful soul….!! 



Saturday, November 8, 2014

How Can I Stop Loving YOU!

Love is a Soul Connection
How can I stop breathing?
to
Live a life that is barren
I want to feel the essence of life
And
To enjoy the pleasure of being filled up with emotions
Ones that are entirely mine
I can’t surrender to the worldly calls
to
Stop loving you and get in a mad race
Of loving the things which are going to lose their existence
Sooner or later
You will also die
And so will I,
but
My love for you will resonate in this world
As I don’t love your outer charms
I love to be inside your soul
And soul never dies
So my love for you will remain in this world
It will affect the beautiful hearts
And let them give a shining signal
to
Follow to the LOVE
One that is out of craving to be beside
And will teach them to be
A constant charm for the inner beauties and lovely souls
Life is all about craziness
And I love to be inside your heart and soul
My love you are as pure as my beloved is
and
I love to see you grow older and deeper
With no desire to move on a path
That will be filed with fears and regrets
I respect and love my love!!

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Swirling Ways of Life !!



We think we are on a continuous path of growth but there is a little child in us who keeps on telling us, we have not mastered the skills of laying all new foundations of Nature. We are born with few instincts and then rest of these are learned by the environment, culture and of course society. But we are individual human beings and when something happens in our lives, mostly our instinctive calling that comes form unconscious mind is far different from what we have learn to act! 

Human psyche has so many different shapes and designs that it puzzles me to tackle with different persons in a same kind of linkage. We are born to prove our worth with what we do and how we deal with the outer world. But I am just too much into this finding that whatever we have suppressed for long, and we are happy with it, and it just sprouts out of a small incident. We see in our very own self the craving and desire to do the same act that might have bitten us so bitter in the past. 

I am not talking about exceptions but I try to give you simple examples like we keep on training ourselves with anger management. But at any moment we snap so high at others, and afterwards we see that we feel guilty that it was only our perception that kept us in most of ways. Similarly we get swayed with false emotions even at a continuous alarm from our mind that it is going to be hurting or difficult to handle. This is how life is taking us in different turns.

We need to separate our irrational beliefs from the rational ones, and then look at the list as what is wrong with adopting a way that is crystal clear in front of us. We can be as successful in mastering our instinctive reactions that is not our self nurturing. Living a successful life depends on prompt actions and reactions that are based on logical reasoning. The emotional element must be hiding behind, and everything must be done in order to make us satisfied afterwards and not to get into any kind of guilt or blame.   

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Acquiring Something YOU long Desired is a Mission Accomplished?

I am just swaying in the ocean of thoughts and feel even strange that is it worth spending hours, days and weeks in planning and then celebrating something that is just so material, and not even ours. We are just doing our efforts to have a New Thing in our life and we have never thought that so many people around the globe are looking towards unseen horizons, to have a meal for a single time.

It makes all my accomplishments and fulfilments to a point zero, and I just ponder on what is being left for me to celebrate a victory that is not going to last even for days. I am not sure if I am able to own that thing which I have been bound to receive legally. But law does not coincide with human fragility, and I heard a man who was so happy on having a great success in his job. But on a thrush of a second moment he was struck by a big bus and he was all dead.

Where his aspirations and accomplishments and nobody are even knows what he was planning to do with that reward what he got. In the model world of fragile thoughts, feelings, emotions and desires how can one be satisfied to have a possession of a New Car or a Home. When you are so uncertain about the very next moment. Life sucks at most of times and it is true. We are born to die and we human beings keep on oppressing others as we will never be a part of dust as our ancestors became.

All name and fame will remain here and we will be in a new time and space mechanism, and judgement of our deeds would be made on what we would leave behind in terms of good deeds, and how much we were able to make a single person smile with something so normal. We are going to see a reality where no one will care of what mansion and luxury car we use to drive.

Then how can we be happy and just so calm at achieving something so worldly and material. But on the other hand we are supposed to live this life to fullest, and to acquire everything with fair means. We are leading to a door of eternal happiness that will come to us but we have to live this life in a fullest way. To do this we have to fight all battles within and outside in the open world. Free ourselves from complexes and duplicities, and then to deal with the world as it demands us to be. So we have to cherish every new acquisition!!