How Sanity Works for Different People Who Care about Self-Esteem as Well

Sanity and Self-Esteem

Life is unpredictable and so are human beings, with a variant psyche it is the most difficult thing to predict anything about this race. The conflicting situations among the human conscious mind, subconscious and unconscious desires, and instincts vary so much that it is really hard to imagine how people will react in different situations. For people like me, self-esteem and keeping our sanctity are always very important. But I ask myself a question as if I maintain my respect within or outside society to the level that I always craved for…!!

I am not asking for the glitz, gloss, and glamorous life of a celebrity but a simple and normal recognition that anyone can look up for having in his or her circle of relations and social relations. The most important thing is our very own sanctity that we need to never compromise on it. But we do it in the name of life, friendships, not to spoil a social relationship, to secure our jobs, and for a lot of other things. It is not the case with me as I am in a dilemma of being nice to everyone, and then trying to snap at people who have crossed their limits and have intruded into my circle of self-respect. 

What a strange psyche we carry with a desire to be loved and respected by others, How different people play with our emotions depending upon how weak we are concerning a desire to find someone who cares for us without anything in return. How we lost our trust and our very own sanctity in trying to reach the unreachable, and it is not subject to that we desire for the stars. They are as ordinary as us but those people come and then stay in our lives for the sake of the fulfillment of their problems, loneliness, the desire of being social, lust, material desires, and lots more. When they find their needs fulfilled out in some other and better way then they don’t care a second to kick us out of their lives. 

Why do people try to fool us and play with our true feeling and emotions as they know that we are really keeping them very special in our hearts, minds, and souls? This question is not solved by me to date except a notion that expectations need to be kept in control, and then don’t let others be your masters of emotions. As they might leave at any instance, and they will use you for their very own instinctive desires that also include the carnal or bodily lust. Then they can easily find an excuse to leave, and many people these days don’t even bother to create an excuse. They are experts in using our weak points in emotions then silently blocking and walking away, and they damn care as if we are in pain. We want them to reconnect or at least respond to our pure and sweet gestures with a token of friendship, and an assurance that they are busy but have us in their lives and hearts. 

Does it cost anything to let people feel easy, relaxed, comfortable, and to give them a status of being connected? Why if someone is emotionally imbalanced and a person who cannot get out of any good or bad experience so easily tries hard to reconnect, and then bashed to the core with losing all dignity and disrespected for what. Forgiving another person respect that he never deserved or for being a fool enough to form expectations from that person who held and controlled us for his or her temporary cravings. Al least we can have a catharsis that we were used to serving someone in his or her difficult times, and does it matters?

The self-respect is so much compromised by us actually that we expect that their words and actions had some base and that they were actually behind their temporary desires and they don’t find a reason or grace enough to say goodbye respectfully. They cannot even excuse us for using our time, feelings, emotions in every way and now they don’t need us anymore. At least, it will suggest to us that we were badly used, and then we have to recover our nerves for the greater good of our own lives, values, and for people who matter in our lives. Then we may learn what are our success goals, and as we cannot be that cheap and selfish, which is a really good human trait. Then we have a way to move forward and work for our very own success and soul satisfaction to be or right path. It is important for our worldly life and hereafter for sure…!!

Self Awareness is a Gift that Few People Cherish but Many Can Learn…!!

Optimism and Motivation for Self Awareness

Life is a continuous struggle that we as humans try to live for our best. We try hard to find the real meaning of life and why our existence is so important for the universe. But, unfortunately very few lead to worthwhile conclusions, and even helpful to sustain and to strive for our very own attainment of heights of glory, peace of soul, and above all to be a part of a better human race. Yes, we must try hard to look to find our real being, and self-awareness is bliss in a way. When people get aware of how their hearts and mind coordinate, and how to give guidance to one’s subconscious and unconscious mind in the right way then things are all going to be very well for us, and humanity in general. 

Deciding to live in peace with what we are gifted by the Divine Rulings, and what is the limitation to our actions, and how to control the wild side that usually exists in every ordinary human being. I am not talking about the superhumans, who have great self-control or are gifted to look beyond their worldly desires, and materialistic approaches towards life and towards other beings. The craving to find relaxed life, true love, and to find success in everything we do is a wish that no sane person can deny for…!!

Each individual has a soul and a desire to live in the best of conditions, and that does not mean to bully, to crush others in the game of success, or to reach the top of a hill, by moving and shaking the inside out of others. If there is a self-awareness of our capabilities, the blessings that we already carry, and our aptitude that must be directed towards something that we highly crave. Then our unconscious mind will take us towards that path with the right decisions and actions at the right time. The wishes must be realistic and there must be an overall positivity in everything we desire for. Some people like to keep the pessimistic approach towards life and other people. 

They want to harm others with their words, actions, and an inside craving to see others suffer. It might be due to their experiences, and the hard and harsh things that others have done to them. But the important thing is to always try to stay away from the emotion of revenge. I don’t ask you to present another cheek if someone slaps you at once. Self-respect is such a precious part of self-awareness that one must never compromise on it. But to keep our nerves in control, and to refrain from damaging another person with our words, actions and attitude are not recommended. Either we must be able to say the truth in front of the one who is hurting our true emotions and giving a jerk to the soul. In another case, forgive or forget is the best option…!!

The concept of forgiveness and forgetting carries a pearl of inherited wisdom, as we let our mind and soul not be able to suffer from the things that don’t matter in our path and struggle to live a better life. Then the second-best thing happens that we don’t want our emotions and energy in negative ways, and give ourselves a lesson that other person’s deeds and words do not reflect me. I am going to define myself in the way I see myself, and how I want to grow and groom. Self-nurturing and growth is natural process, and we keep on learning at every age. If we are aware of our own flaws and weaknesses then we are better able to correct and control ourselves for our very own good life and physical, emotional, and mental health, and to have a peaceful soul….!! 

Life is Worth a Second Chance?

Life and Love

I am living a Life

One that is worth thousand smiles

I am having all Blessings

Which I cannot recall

I want to die a death

To

Be peaceful and free of madness

I hate to be a difficult person

I love to live a relieved life

but…

It is not easy and I am dying with 

Slow poison of…

Luxuries, dreams and searchable love

I want to get that peace of Soul

Hard to find in this mortal world

I am not into suicide

And to let go all fears

Everything is so strange

and

Yet so difficult

To handle and bear anymore…!!

But

It is worth a second chance

To let me have more experiences

And to

Ask for forgiveness to God Almighty,,,,,

In Memory of Those Who Lost Their Lives in Moments!!

Life gives only chances and sometimes not, and you know we all are sitting on a same platform. We are waiting for our train or flight to depart from this world, full of forgetful joys and long standing miseries and pains. I am continuously thinking over the plane crash that happened last week. Why their destiny was to leave for hereafter while their feet were not on ground? All of Bhoja Air’s passengers and crew members were burnt and broken into pieces, and not a single body was identified that was whole. They were human being like me and you, full of dreams and aspirations. They were facing their own depressions, anxieties, success stories or failures.

Isn’t it a realization by ALLAH that we all are standing on edge of a ridge, and our feet can slip at a blink of eye? Those people who lost their lives were going to land and had packed their baggage’s, and they would be making up set routine plans but ALL Blown up in Sky! Their dreams, problems and all their desperation came to an end. What is left up there is the trial of afterlife….as it is a true fact that we all would forget this incident like earlier in no time, but I think we should sit in some dark corner and replay our own lives in the display theater of our minds. Are we really prepared for that blow of a moment? Anyone could be at their place, and it’s only a fact of life that their time in this material world had ended. But who knows how much time one is left with!

This tragedy has awakened the sense of nothingness and uselessness of all efforts in me. All that hassle for worldly growths, and possessions and making fuss out of everything. What is our real luggage that we can carry for that Eternal life and to present the deeds in front of ALLAH Almighty? Just think over it and realize that our rulers and the whole society are so much involved in that deep-rooted sleep. Our ruling elites think, and I suppose believe that they are not going to die at any moment. They would be given a chance for long to pray for forgiveness to ALLAH, before their departure from this material world. Same is the case with our whole nations. The corruption, injustice, lawlessness and putting someone else in misery seems to have become a pride in daily routines. We have forgotten those last moments, standing at any corner to grab us all. 

Just ponder over the situation and feel sympathy for these criminal and unjust rulers, their allies and corrupt citizens of Pakistan. When their ties would be pulled up, and they may not even have time to ask for forgiveness to ALLAH Almighty. Feel and sympathize for all those Zardaris, Gillanis, Atizaas, Asmas, Haqqanis, Najam Sethis, and that Clerk who asked for bribe from an old widow, who came to transfer her husband’s pension on her name. Her Basic Legal Right!!.....I am feeling so sad and miserable at this point…..