How Sanity Works for Different People Who Care about Self-Esteem as Well

Sanity and Self-Esteem

Life is unpredictable and so are human beings, with a variant psyche it is the most difficult thing to predict anything about this race. The conflicting situations among the human conscious mind, subconscious and unconscious desires, and instincts vary so much that it is really hard to imagine how people will react in different situations. For people like me, self-esteem and keeping our sanctity are always very important. But I ask myself a question as if I maintain my respect within or outside society to the level that I always craved for…!!

I am not asking for the glitz, gloss, and glamorous life of a celebrity but a simple and normal recognition that anyone can look up for having in his or her circle of relations and social relations. The most important thing is our very own sanctity that we need to never compromise on it. But we do it in the name of life, friendships, not to spoil a social relationship, to secure our jobs, and for a lot of other things. It is not the case with me as I am in a dilemma of being nice to everyone, and then trying to snap at people who have crossed their limits and have intruded into my circle of self-respect. 

What a strange psyche we carry with a desire to be loved and respected by others, How different people play with our emotions depending upon how weak we are concerning a desire to find someone who cares for us without anything in return. How we lost our trust and our very own sanctity in trying to reach the unreachable, and it is not subject to that we desire for the stars. They are as ordinary as us but those people come and then stay in our lives for the sake of the fulfillment of their problems, loneliness, the desire of being social, lust, material desires, and lots more. When they find their needs fulfilled out in some other and better way then they don’t care a second to kick us out of their lives. 

Why do people try to fool us and play with our true feeling and emotions as they know that we are really keeping them very special in our hearts, minds, and souls? This question is not solved by me to date except a notion that expectations need to be kept in control, and then don’t let others be your masters of emotions. As they might leave at any instance, and they will use you for their very own instinctive desires that also include the carnal or bodily lust. Then they can easily find an excuse to leave, and many people these days don’t even bother to create an excuse. They are experts in using our weak points in emotions then silently blocking and walking away, and they damn care as if we are in pain. We want them to reconnect or at least respond to our pure and sweet gestures with a token of friendship, and an assurance that they are busy but have us in their lives and hearts. 

Does it cost anything to let people feel easy, relaxed, comfortable, and to give them a status of being connected? Why if someone is emotionally imbalanced and a person who cannot get out of any good or bad experience so easily tries hard to reconnect, and then bashed to the core with losing all dignity and disrespected for what. Forgiving another person respect that he never deserved or for being a fool enough to form expectations from that person who held and controlled us for his or her temporary cravings. Al least we can have a catharsis that we were used to serving someone in his or her difficult times, and does it matters?

The self-respect is so much compromised by us actually that we expect that their words and actions had some base and that they were actually behind their temporary desires and they don’t find a reason or grace enough to say goodbye respectfully. They cannot even excuse us for using our time, feelings, emotions in every way and now they don’t need us anymore. At least, it will suggest to us that we were badly used, and then we have to recover our nerves for the greater good of our own lives, values, and for people who matter in our lives. Then we may learn what are our success goals, and as we cannot be that cheap and selfish, which is a really good human trait. Then we have a way to move forward and work for our very own success and soul satisfaction to be or right path. It is important for our worldly life and hereafter for sure…!!

Soul on a Peaceful Path!

Soul on Success Path

Sometime I do wonder as if there is a place on this Earth that is destined to be peaceful and comfortable. I feel a complete chaos in mind and soul when I think about a destination inside myself or around me to be silent, secure and spiritually awakened. I am feeling that every human being is going through this roller coaster ride of dreams, destination and the real wants. We keep on following our worldly duties and bound to fulfil the responsibilities that are meant to satisfy others more than us!

If it is not the case then why I am feeling that much lost right now when I am on a verge of accomplishing new level of success? It is due to a reason that my personal priority was and still is Soul Satisfaction but I am a Social Animal and tend to behave like normal people. I have to go on a run after a Success route. I have to get out of my comfort zones and fight the battle of life that is going to end one day. I am not sure if anybody ever recognizes my efforts or struggles or my own kids would ever understand that I had to take ten more steps to get aligned with a line of normal people.

To have a peace of mind and to live in harmony with your inner soul is the best thing that you can achieve. But the question remains as if world with all its demands will let you stay in that path. If you want to be in resting phase and to let your positive energies to focus on having Divine Guidance and Enlightenment then you need to follow your instincts. But sitting here and saying that is so easy for me too. I know I cannot make it happen for me as I am a bounded soul or slave of dreams, whims and wishes of my own self and that of others.

I am also having impositions on my soul due to some duties that Divine Will has assigned me for. I have to be answerable for the dependants who are my spouse and kids. I I am unable to do justice to their lives, and to prove them love, compassion and comfortable lives then my spiritual awakening would lead me to no place. I will be the villain of their lives and doing such injustice would eventually lead me to guilt and pessimism. So whatever I have to gain as Optimism and Motivation is to be from the situation that I am currently in, and I think it is my suggestion to every soul who is seeking a individual salvation!!

Swirling Ways of Life !!

We think we are on a continuous path of growth but there is a little child in us who keeps on telling us, we have not mastered the skills of laying all new foundations of Nature. We are born with few instincts and then rest of these are learned by the environment, culture and of course society. But we are individual human beings and when something happens in our lives, mostly our instinctive calling that comes form unconscious mind is far different from what we have learn to act! 

Human psyche has so many different shapes and designs that it puzzles me to tackle with different persons in a same kind of linkage. We are born to prove our worth with what we do and how we deal with the outer world. But I am just too much into this finding that whatever we have suppressed for long, and we are happy with it, and it just sprouts out of a small incident. We see in our very own self the craving and desire to do the same act that might have bitten us so bitter in the past. 

I am not talking about exceptions but I try to give you simple examples like we keep on training ourselves with anger management. But at any moment we snap so high at others, and afterwards we see that we feel guilty that it was only our perception that kept us in most of ways. Similarly we get swayed with false emotions even at a continuous alarm from our mind that it is going to be hurting or difficult to handle. This is how life is taking us in different turns.

We need to separate our irrational beliefs from the rational ones, and then look at the list as what is wrong with adopting a way that is crystal clear in front of us. We can be as successful in mastering our instinctive reactions that is not our self nurturing. Living a successful life depends on prompt actions and reactions that are based on logical reasoning. The emotional element must be hiding behind, and everything must be done in order to make us satisfied afterwards and not to get into any kind of guilt or blame.